not your typical annihilatrix (furiosity) wrote,
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we're out of our medicine, out of our minds, and we want in yours, let us in

0001 - I love Metafilter. Float, the first of a series of inspirational videos by BackSpace. This video shows letters and numbers from Melbourne signs peeling off and floating away. I found it... haunting, but at the same time oddly hopeful. I think what's most amazing about it is -- someone asked themselves, "what if every letter/number on my city's signs peeled off and floated away? What would it look like?" And then they created something to show their vision of it. I mean, in the grand scheme of things, such flights of fancy aren't going to feed the homeless or cure cancer, but it's creative... and I think as long as there is creativity, there is also progress. There's a group on youtube that's listing open contributions to the project; of the ones I've looked at, none have comparable quality, but some are still quite neat.

0010 - So about the "onoz, filtered!" poll I did the other day. I have to admit that the results surprised me somewhat. You see, I've always been under the impression that LJ friending is a touchy subject best approached in Hazmat wear. But looking at the poll results -- the thrust of a lot more than half of the responses seems to lie with "I don't care". Now. It might be a wild leap of logic to make, but to me, if so many people "do not care" who reads their journal ('friended' or not), then why would they care who friends them?

The way I approach friending is basically -- it's none of my business whom others add and it's none of other people's business whom I add. Hopefully not too dramatic. However, every time friending comes up as a subject, people consistently refer to all the "drama" that revolves around friending. Hell, I refer to it too -- I've certainly seen my share of dramatic responses to friending/defriending. What I'm wondering is, based on the "I don't care" thing above, could it be possible that those sorts of responses are the exception, rather than the rule? Or, at the very least, they're not as frequent as we tend to think they are? It sort of strikes me a little like fandom wank -- the HP fandom is always wanking, and it's considered the wankiest fandom out there, but as an active fandom participant, I can attest that there's a lot more non-wank than there is wank.

So to that end, a poll. I'm keeping the detailed results locked to myself only, so please be honest -- In The Interest of LJ Science™ If you comment and would like your comment screened, just say so at the top (or in the subject line) and I'll screen ASAP. I won't screen by default because I don't want to discourage frank discussion.

This poll is about personal journals only. For its purposes, communities don't count as part of your flist.


Poll #838602 Friending

I am taking this poll

Yes
815(100.0%)

LJ-friending is, generally, Serious Business

Yes
180(22.1%)
No
576(70.8%)
I'll comment
58(7.1%)

My flist is primarily:

a reading list
73(8.9%)
a list of my friends and acquaintances
97(11.9%)
a mixture of the two, with more "reading" than "friends"
319(39.0%)
a mixture of the two, with more "friends" than "reading"
301(36.8%)
a list of my very close and personal friends only
3(0.4%)
totally random! I'm a serial adder/troll.
4(0.5%)
I'll comment
21(2.6%)

When I add someone, I expect to be added back by default.

Yes
84(10.3%)
No
688(84.2%)
I'll comment
45(5.5%)

People should add back everyone who adds them, regardless of factors like mutual interest or acquaintance level.

Yes
1(0.1%)
Yes, except for obvious trolls/serial adders
55(6.7%)
No
742(90.7%)
I'll comment
20(2.4%)

It's polite to add back people who add you.

Yes, and it should be done by everyone 100% of the time
4(0.5%)
Yes, but it's not practical if you actually read your flist
236(28.9%)
Not if you're not interested
322(39.4%)
It's neither polite nor impolite
238(29.1%)
I'll comment
17(2.1%)

Do you think it's rude to pretend to be interested in someone's journal out of empty courtesy?

Yes
371(45.7%)
No
401(49.4%)
I'll comment
39(4.8%)

Which of the following best describes your flist reading habits:

I read everyone on my flist regularly
517(63.3%)
I read everyone, but rarely
30(3.7%)
I only read a percentage of my flist and filter out people I don't want to read
40(4.9%)
I only read a percentage of my flist and occasionally visit the journals of those I've filtered out
36(4.4%)
Sometimes I read a small filter, sometimes I read everyone/a bigger filter. Depends on how busy I am with other things.
166(20.3%)
I never read my flist
2(0.2%)
I'll comment
26(3.2%)

When you realise that one of your "mutual" friends (someone you have added and they have you added back) either bores you or annoys the fuck out of you (and this isn't a temporary thing), you:

Defriend them.
291(35.7%)
Filter them out or just skip their entries.
373(45.7%)
Grin and bear it.
103(12.6%)
Other (I'll comment)
49(6.0%)

If you said "filter them out or just skip their entries" above, what is your primary reason for choosing that option:

I don't want to hurt their feelings.
121(18.2%)
I don't want to deal with possible drama over the defriending.
125(18.8%)
I still want to read their flocked entries if I choose to.
126(18.9%)
Other (I'll comment)
26(3.9%)
I did not choose "filter them out or just skip their entries". This radio button is here to avoid oppressing me.
268(40.2%)

When I remove someone from my flist, I expect to be removed from their flist as well.

Yes
327(40.3%)
No
436(53.8%)
I'll comment
48(5.9%)

Someone's just defriended you! Your reaction? (please pick only those reactions that apply most frequently to you personally)

But why? YOU WERE MY FRIEND! I don't care that we haven't exchanged more than a few comments! WE WERE FRIENDS, DAMN IT!
1(0.1%)
*cries*
2(0.2%)
*pouts a bit*
25(3.1%)
If it's someone I talk to regularly/interact with off-LJ, I'll feel hurt if there's no explanation.
61(7.5%)
*defriends as well*
11(1.3%)
Meh.
45(5.5%)
Yay! I can finally defriend that wanker without fear of consequences!
7(0.9%)
I really don't care one way or another.
34(4.2%)
Other (I'll comment)
12(1.5%)

I have a "friending policy" that's easily accessible to visitors of my journal

Yes, and I assume people pay attention to it
123(15.1%)
Yes, but I don't think anyone pays attention to it
197(24.2%)
No
480(58.9%)
I'll comment
15(1.8%)

Making public "friends cut" announcements is:

wanky, regardless of circumstances
119(14.6%)
only wanky if the post contains a list of people who were cut
281(34.4%)
fine if it's not the focus of the post (i.e. mentioned in passing), otherwise wanky
144(17.6%)
none of my business
236(28.9%)
I'll comment
37(4.5%)

You see a "comment, or be defriended" post. Your reaction:

zomg! plz dun defrend me :( *comments*
60(7.4%)
*comments, but also tells the person they're being a drama queen*
52(6.4%)
*comments only to tell the person they're being a drama queen*
30(3.7%)
*does not comment on principle*
253(31.3%)
*defriends on principle*
35(4.3%)
A combination of some of the above
315(39.0%)
Other (*comments to this post*)
63(7.8%)


ETA: And also I'd appreciate if you pimped the poll around if you could -- fiona_fawkes pointed out that results from this LJ's readers alone might be skewed.

Son of ETA: If you don't feel comfortable commenting and don't want to chance someone seeing your comment before I screen it, please feel free to email me -- furiosity at livejournal dot com
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