0010 - So about the "onoz, filtered!" poll I did the other day. I have to admit that the results surprised me somewhat. You see, I've always been under the impression that LJ friending is a touchy subject best approached in Hazmat wear. But looking at the poll results -- the thrust of a lot more than half of the responses seems to lie with "I don't care". Now. It might be a wild leap of logic to make, but to me, if so many people "do not care" who reads their journal ('friended' or not), then why would they care who friends them?
The way I approach friending is basically -- it's none of my business whom others add and it's none of other people's business whom I add. Hopefully not too dramatic. However, every time friending comes up as a subject, people consistently refer to all the "drama" that revolves around friending. Hell, I refer to it too -- I've certainly seen my share of dramatic responses to friending/defriending. What I'm wondering is, based on the "I don't care" thing above, could it be possible that those sorts of responses are the exception, rather than the rule? Or, at the very least, they're not as frequent as we tend to think they are? It sort of strikes me a little like fandom wank -- the HP fandom is always wanking, and it's considered the wankiest fandom out there, but as an active fandom participant, I can attest that there's a lot more non-wank than there is wank.
So to that end, a poll. I'm keeping the detailed results locked to myself only, so please be honest -- In The Interest of LJ Science™ If you comment and would like your comment screened, just say so at the top (or in the subject line) and I'll screen ASAP. I won't screen by default because I don't want to discourage frank discussion.
This poll is about personal journals only. For its purposes, communities don't count as part of your flist.
I am taking this poll
LJ-friending is, generally, Serious Business
My flist is primarily:
When I add someone, I expect to be added back by default.
People should add back everyone who adds them, regardless of factors like mutual interest or acquaintance level.
It's polite to add back people who add you.
Do you think it's rude to pretend to be interested in someone's journal out of empty courtesy?
Which of the following best describes your flist reading habits:
When you realise that one of your "mutual" friends (someone you have added and they have you added back) either bores you or annoys the fuck out of you (and this isn't a temporary thing), you:
If you said "filter them out or just skip their entries" above, what is your primary reason for choosing that option:
When I remove someone from my flist, I expect to be removed from their flist as well.
Someone's just defriended you! Your reaction? (please pick only those reactions that apply most frequently to you personally)
I have a "friending policy" that's easily accessible to visitors of my journal
Making public "friends cut" announcements is:
You see a "comment, or be defriended" post. Your reaction:
ETA: And also I'd appreciate if you pimped the poll around if you could -- fiona_fawkes pointed out that results from this LJ's readers alone might be skewed.
Son of ETA: If you don't feel comfortable commenting and don't want to chance someone seeing your comment before I screen it, please feel free to email me -- furiosity at livejournal dot com